“But He’s So (fill in the blank)!”

One of things that I absolutely despise when I mention that my father has dementia is the inevitable "but he was so intelligent" or "I can't believe it--he is such a thinker" or "really?! Are you sure? He is such an intelligent man, he must be just scatterbrained" (yes. I'm sure. It's not him being … Continue reading “But He’s So (fill in the blank)!”


Brutal honesty

I have written about this before, but one of the most heartbreaking thing about when a loved one has cognitive impairment is not only the loss of identity, but to see them struggle trying to preserve their dignity in spite of it. On occasion, you see the glimmer of who they were, and what they … Continue reading Brutal honesty